Before, the problem scenario would get caught in one of the assertions because
we expect the to_token <= membership_snapshot_token or vice-versa but it's
possible the tokens are intertwined and neither is ahead of each other.
Especially since the `instance_map` in `membership_snapshot_token` is made up
from the `stream_ordering` of membership events at various stream positions
and processed on different instances (not current stream positions).
We get into trouble when stream positions are lagging between workers and our
now/`to_token` doesn't cleanly compare to `membership_snapshot_token`.
What we really want to assert is that the `to_token` <= the stream positions
at the time we asked for the room membership snapshot. Since
`get_rooms_for_local_user_where_membership_is()` doesn't return that
information, the closest we can get is to get the stream positions before we
ask for the room membership snapshot and consider that good enough to compare
against.
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